So you're planning a career? Really? Those are some pretty big words, easier said than done too... But there's something about a career which you may have neglected to consider honestly: "What if you become a success?" I mean: "a real success"? Have you ever been a major star before? Unless you can answer "Yes" then you cannot have any real idea how Impacting your career could be on your life. People you will meet, places you will go? Let me give you an example: Let's say you are going into military academy to become an Officer- over an entire Fleet of Naval Vessels. Your time of intense training could be months, even years, while you are strictly disciplined and regimented to schedules, regulations, and a highly specialized education: In short: "A whole new way of life." But the entire time you are in the academy, you expect to have someone with you, they'll just be outside waiting for you the whole time until you are finished. When you finally finish the academy, graduate, and become commissioned, you have become transformed into a totally new person, you have made new friends, you have a salary to live with that you never had before, new plans, goals and purpose in life; you see things in such a large perspective now that you realize you knew very little about real life before.
So you step out of the academy and there he is still, waiting- only, he has no idea of what you have just gone through or who you have become, nor of the new responsibilities you have just inherited. In short- you have not much left in common- unless you plan to reverse your life and go back. Well, in a career where you are to become a "star"- if you will not Work to go forward into your career with your eyes and heart continually seeking "what is to become", then you will not make it. Girls who get 'hitched' with guys in their young-adulthood (adolescent) years, will be draining their passions into a relationship, and not for a career- there won't be "time to practice", "to audition" , "take care of yourself", or "to follow-up on existing and new opportunities", but plenty of excuses to do next to nothing other than "have fun now with my guy... " until you wake up and grow up. But usually it's too late by that time.
Parents and relatives, or "guardians" who do not feel it their business anymore to "interfere" in a young girl's life are compounding the problems, and girls without a strong father-figure in their lives or who have that strong father-figure discouraged from their lives will run to eager young men for security; trading sex for "love, and visa-versa- this is not news: "I'll just leave the girls at home alone while I go to work- Nevermind there will be young men stopping by while she is alone..."
Do you not think that this is reality today? It's almost the Norm today... And more parents are doing less and less about it too. Nevermind Marriage first anymore, or even at all in more and more lives: Sexual - Experimentation which goes along with "dating" today more than ever destroys the beauty of 'innocense' and it brings negative physical changes that are evident; eventually it brings pregnancy (regardless of how hard parents shut their eyes), and diseases, but not a career- More girls learn from the television, peer-pressure, music, magazines, than from parents... Being 'hitched' to a guy while young and trying to make a career can easily result in jealousy on his part, and a lack of honesty and reliability to your profession on your part- no matter how nice of a ring any guy has put onto your finger to get control of you and to obligate you to himself. Of course, if a guy is already a success and has made the top of a career equal to yours, then much of this may not apply- at least you can ensure yourself of the lifestyle you will want to live and raise your child(ren) if you plan your prenuptual-agreements properly. So if you are talking "career"- don't fool yourself, If you are hitched to the past when journeying a career, then you are dragging such a burden of weight and emotional baggage along with you, that someone who is serious about her career is sure to surpass you like you are crawling while she's running in a race. You've seen it before; many of us with eyes open see it all the time: and those parents who are afraid to help young people with opportunity to become anything better in life than they have become- or is it just that most don't want to be bothered?
"Star 80".
